Friday, March 7, 2008

Stuff...

1.  If you don't have anything nice to say (no matter what the circumstance), keep it to yourself.  It won't help the situation any to let someone know that someone else doesn't like them, or has something uncomplimentary to say.  I'd rather live in ignorant bliss.  At least I'll be in bliss.

2.  Gentlemen, in apologizing to your wife/girlfriend/female friend, it's enough to say "I'm sorry that what I did or said hurt you... I'm sorry for how I made you feel."  You uttered the words she was waiting for without sacrificing one ounce of pride.

3.  Ladies, if your man seems to withdraw, let him be.  All men need to be alone with their thoughts in order to think situations thoroughly.  Nag him, and he'll get confused.  And an utterly confused man is akin to the Incredible Hulk.

4.  It's better to think and think hard and well before speaking.  I've uttered enough FU's in my lifetime without so much as a single thought.

5.  Don't forget to say "I love you," if you truly mean it.  We ladies LOVE to hear it, be showered in it, enveloped by it.  Don't hold back on us, please, and we won't hold back on you.

That's all I have for right now... when I have more, I'll add more.  Good night.

27 comments:

Jay Marquez said...

thanks for this.:-).

Kathryn Lumagod said...

Thanks.. my bf and I are going through a lot lately. Im now trying to give him space coz I tend to nag and I dont want it to be a habit. As you said, dont want to turn him into Incredible Hulk hehe.. take care!

arkitekfhc . said...

True...true. I can't multi task either.

Roy del Valle said...

... At least I'll be in bliss... Hahahahahaha... Agree 100%

arkitekfhc . said...

No. 4 - Got that right, manang!
No. 5 - We labs you, Lea. :)

JANE AREJOLA said...

thanks! :)

Chinky Fuentes said...

This is true. When my husband and I are having a disagreement, he would walk around the neighborhood first before he continues to talk to me. I know better than to force him to talk right away.

Mac Turija said...

Number 2's right on target.

Jericho Razon said...

I half-disagree with this one. I think pride should be forgotten when asking for forgiveness. On this point, I think "I'm sorry that I hurt you" is much better than "I'm sorry if what I did hurt you." The word "if" is a big cop out.

Ronald Manaron said...

If there's one type of person I can't stand, it's the gossip monger. They think they're doing you a big favor by telling you the "truth" about how such-and-such can't stand your guts. This serves no purpose at all but to spread so much ill will. And life is too short to be wallowing in so much disharmony.

I, too, would prefer to live in bliss. I've said things in the past that I've regretted later on. All it takes is one snide remark to rub someone the wrong way, thus setting off a chain of negative consequences.

Now, even when I'm tempted to say something nasty, I persuade myself to keep silent. I actually feel good about myself later on for keeping my mouth shut!

Lea Salonga said...

Perhaps the word "that" should go in place of "if". I'm sorry THAT I hurt you. I shall edit the list above. I wrote it pretty late in the evening under the influence of Benadryl.

ღ Ch18e ¹⁸ said...

thank you!

Ninna Bautista said...

umm, yeah ignorance is bliss, but think about it, for instance you know what your friend really feels towards the other, would you tolerate seeing him/her act as if he/she doesn't hold any resentment towards the other, but in reality there is?. will you still keep what you know to yourself? ( do i make sense?)

arlin dizon said...

maybe if you're friend actually lets you in to the situation it's just okay if you talk about it. but if you meddle by your own free will i think that's something else.

Ronald Manaron said...

As a good friend, I would be there just to listen, but I would keep what I know to myself. Also, if given a choice, I'd rather see my friend act indifferent towards the other party, rather than initiate an unnecessary confrontation.

(Personally, I find people who hold resentment or nurse grudges continually to be very boring company)

bing ♥ said...

Fletch mentioned that Guy was your Aladdin last night per Kamille and Brad. He was really determined, huh! :)

bobby rodriguez said...

Love this blog. It sure helped me feel better. =)

Ninna Bautista said...

aahh. I've lived with an idea that being rationally direct to someone is more proper than doing nothing at all, kung sa ikabubuti niya naman eh.Yeah there are times that keeping your mouth shut is the best way to go but if you want something to change, why keep it to yourself? and not confront the person that actually keeps on bugging you. :) opinion ko lang po to.

hole-and-corner ... said...

awesome post. loved the tips.

Chachie Buencamino said...

great post. very helpful Ü

Jed Madela said...

Amen to Number 1!!!! and number 3, Hallelujah!!! I gotta work on number 4 though... Hehehe

Urane laderas-cabantog said...

oh, this no. 1 willbe a great help.... i agree with this.... that it wont help the situatuion if you keep on saying nonsense things...

thanks miss lea....

Anna Sioson said...

Totally agree! Thinking before speaking = no regrets. :)

N A said...

"I'm sorry that what I did or said hurt you... I'm sorry for how I made you feel." You uttered the words she was waiting for without sacrificing one ounce of pride.-- but sometimes they overuse it and without a doubt, they get a way with it. too bad men sometimes dont grow up. or they refuse to and deny the fact that they have to.

Lea Salonga said...

That's when discernment comes in... it's being able to tell a sincere apology and expression of regret from one that's just lip service. If you're with someone who's just going to take you for granted, why are you still with him?

von... jamesvon said...

i was googling "ken lee" and accidentally found her (that bavarian idol) here...thanks for sharing your thoughts...best wishes to you and your loved ones...love you ate...aim high pinay!

Li'l Dove Feather said...

Ooh, you're totally right. Some years ago, somebody hurt me. She PROBABLY didn't intend it but the big damage was done. She knew she hurt me but pretended like it was nothing. Then after a few years, because she probably realized I was the nicest to her and yet she pushed me away, she sent a message, "I know we didn't part ways as friends. I'm sorry if ever I hurt you"...WHA--?!! IF??!!!! Ano 'yon? You're not sure? It was like saying she didn't know what went wrong (which is impossible) or saying, "I have no idea why you would take it that hard but since you're so freakin' sensitive, okay, I'll say sorry just to make you happy."

HOW CAN YOU REALLY ACCEPT AN APOLOGY FROM SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T OWN UP TO HER MISTAKE? Worse, SOMEONE WHO MANAGES TO PUT THE BLAME BACK TO YOU?